Give Her Some Myrrh

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Frankincense

Give Her Some Myrrh

Everyone knows what gold is, and every man knows how women react to its glitter during the holidays. As a write-all-day-and-night kind of guy, I am a typical last minute shopper, or even a get-yourself-something-special kind of husband (don’t say it).

Nevertheless, it is the Christmas season, and even the insensitive, male population should be at least a little thoughtful. But gold? It’s just not me, so I thought I would explore some options this year.

Frankincense is an aromatic resin obtained from the tree sap or the milky white gum resin of Boswellia trees found in parts of Asia and Africa. The exuded resins are allowed to bleed out and harden into tears. With an alluring fragrance, it is used in incense and perfumes.

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Myrrh

Myrrh is a reddish gum that comes from a species of small, thorny Commiphora trees, which are native to northeast Africa and the adjacent areas of the Arabian Peninsula. Myrrh is a natural gum, and like frankincense, is a resin. Harvesters of myrrh wound the trees repeatedly to bleed them of the gum, which is waxy, and coagulates quickly. After the harvest, the gum becomes hard and glossy. The finished product is yellowish, and may be either clear or opaque. It darkens deeply as it ages, and white streaks emerge. Besides being aromatic, it is said to be medicinal.

Now, getting back to the holiday spirit, I have looked at more gold this December than I have ever seen in my life. But saying something special means delivering a special gift that sums up the giver himself. Anybody can buy a golden trinket. I wanted something that will make her say, “This is the real you, sweetheart.”

This year, I think I’m going with the Myrrh. What say you?
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Comments

  1. Thanks for the tip- will check to see is my local co-op carries myrrh and try some. But you are on your own as to whether you should give some to your wife!

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  2. I would think after all your years of marriage your wife would know you well enough to know your taste in gifts are unique... I agree w/you JJ.. ANYone can buy a piece of gold jewelry... Personally, I like the unique.

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  3. I have to agree with Chrissy the unique is a far better choice...it's always the right from the heart gift that really makes us stop in awe...the sweetly wrapped persimmon tied with a bow of mistletoe or other greenery....and just underneath it all a brief little love note...yes, we do remember those little sweet-things that we ever so often find.... I too vote for the something no one else will surely find....A very Merry happy holidays to you JJ and all your loved ones too! ;)

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  4. helen: The consensus among most of my friends seems to be in agreement with your thoughts. I'll wait for the word from my online friends.

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  5. KBF: Agreed. My gifts are usually unique, but she knows my taste so well that she buys her own presents for Christmas - just in case.

    PS: If I didn't buy holiday gifts, we would have nothing for garage sales.

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  6. Karen: Do you see me as a "sweetly wrapped persimmon tied with a bow of mistletoe or other greenery" kind of guy? I must be writing myself into a persona people actually like! Merry Christmas to you and yours!!

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  7. JJ: u always see the silver lining in things, don't you? :-)
    my husband use to give presents to his mother and I would ask him if he was sure.. He told me he gave them because he liked it and if she didn't wear it or use it, then it was ok.

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  8. To be original with long term wives (as is also my case) is always a challenge, ma non troppo!...
    I wish you luck, JJ.

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  9. KBF: The silver lining is my strong suit. I really feel the same way. Christmas is giving.

    FanaticoUm: Non lo consigliamo per giovani sposi.

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  10. I love the pic at the top of your blog! What a warm feeling that conjures up! :-) Thanks for stopping by, I'm now following back!

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  11. Mommy With Selective Memory: I should have been born in the 1920s. Thank you for the follow!

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  12. I think you're in big trouble if you go with the myrrh! I'm not one to wear much jewelry, and your post is really interesting. I didn't know where frankincense and myrrh came from, so thanks for the lesson!

    After reading the comments from the others, I see that you're not joking about the myrrh, like I thought you were. Of course, being the practical joker that I am and coming from a family full of them, that's what I thought.

    You know your wife better than anyone else, so you know what she likes. If it was my hubby giving me something like myrrh, I think you need to type something up telling about the benefits of myrrh, maybe on some cool paper, roll it up like a scroll, and tie a beautiful ribbon around it. And I suggest finding a really cool, unique box to put it in. Now, I don't know if you're a bargain shopper like I am, but I love rummaging through the homeware section of Ross. They sell things that Pier 1 sells, but at half the price. Check it over to make sure there's no damage, though. These are just suggestions, of course!

    JJ, I want to thank you for emailing me your fly fishing story. It's great. Do you want me to link to this blog or your other blog? Let me know.

    I look forward to hearing about how your wife likes the myrrh! Merry Christmas to you and your family.

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  13. Lynn: Nah. I'm a joker, and my friends, even my blogging friends, know it. I must admit that if I found myrrh somewhere, my wife would get it, but she is a good sport.

    Shopping? I would rather wrestle a gorilla. My wife is always in Pier 1 or Ross.

    As for the fly fishing story, feel free to link it to this blog - with my appreciation.

    A very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you and yours.

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  14. Hi JJ .. Myrrh would be a good present as : "Myrrh has become synonymous with the word for “perfume”, and Pliny the Elder refers to it specifically as the “Royal Perfume”." But as it comes from Somalia and Ethiopia .. I wonder about the husbandry of the small tree ..

    So I think your wife probably has the best answer .. buy her own - they probably won't be that expensive if you're lucky .. but she'll be one happy woman?!

    Cheers - Have a lovely Christmas and New Year - Hilary

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  15. Mark: Thank you, and thanks for the follow.

    Hilary: The "husbandry of the small tree." You got me thinking. Yes, my wife has the answer. She has always received terrific gifts for Christmas, and they are always a surprise. I can't wait to see what I got her this year! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

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  16. Well, you've been married this long, so you must be doing something right!

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  17. Galen: It is not a tactic for the weak-hearted. And, I might add, we are happily married!

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  18. Lovely, JJ, and quite unique.

    Have a beautiful Christmas and I look forward to seeing you again in the new year!

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  19. Suze: Thank you. It has been a pleasure. You are a terrific, talented writer! A very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you and yours!

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  20. Myrrh! An excellent choice, JJ! It is thrilling to actually know a man who doesn't settle for the mundane. Last year, Rod gave me a watch. Now I have THREE watches! I am blessed!

    The days are sort of running together for me lately and I accidentally posted my Christmas letter, which was supposed to be for Thursday, today. I decided to just leave it up. Joey recently had a short story published in Ferocious Quarterly Short Stories. The name of his story is in my post, in case you want to read it. One of the links I gave doesn't always work, but I'm sure you can find the site if you want to.

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  21. Ever thought of bowling ball? Just kidding!
    This year I decided to save my husband the usual anxiety attack and make a list of every single thing that came to mind that I could possiby use or would want and he used that list as a guideline (I still have no idea what he got me because he knows I like suprises).
    Good luck and I'm sure she'll love whatever you chose for her!!

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  22. Judie: Good for Rod! A guy who doesn't believe in time is thrilled to hear it. I must admit, it probably makes wives (except mine, whom I would be lost without because she understands me)happier than myrrh does.

    As for Joey's story, I'll make it a point to read it today. Merry Christmas to all of you in Arizona!

    Miriam: Bowling balls are too heavy. Myrrh is light, and even I can wrap it. Merry Christmas to you and yours!

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  23. JJ, the problem is that I don't wear a watch. Rod is not very observant, even after 25 years.

    Let me know what you think of Joey's story. Be sure to read my Christmas letter on my blog.

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  24. yes, actually I do! Merry Christmas and happiness and blessings to you and your family as well! Rejoice in all !

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