It’s Your Life
It’s Your Life
A friend of mine recently sent me an e-mail of an article written by Australian writer, singer, and songwriter Bronnie Ware. I have a special appreciation for Bronnie, who takes pride in her diverse background and vast life experiences.
“From being a corporate employee to nursing the dying, teaching songwriting in a women's prison, and many things in between, Bronnie's journey has been a fascinating one” (ezine article, November 14, 2009).
In one article, she discusses the regrets that people typically express once they know they are dying. I list the top five below:
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I didn't work so hard.
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
Now, I thought about these regrets long and hard, and here is how I relate them to my life:
1. When I was young, I did not realize I had a choice. For me, it was not a matter of courage, but ignorance. Once I recognized my life was just that – mine – I was off to the races. No regrets here.
2. There were times in my early years I worked at jobs I did not enjoy. Not so any more. I will keep working as long as I can – only at what I love.
3. Never my problem.
4. Of the five regrets, this one disturbs me the most, but I don’t blame myself. I would love to spend more time with all my friends, but so many of them have reasons why they cannot: wives, husbands, kids, jobs, money, time, stress, obligations, plans, school, chores, and in my opinion, life itself. I would love to spend more time with my friends, and they with me. I am still ready. No regrets here.
5. If I let myself get any happier, I might die laughing. I don’t feel the need to apologize for my joy in life. My life might not be perfect, but it is mine and I’m happy, with no regrets.
As Bronnie says, “Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.”
What about you? Do you have the same five regrets?